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it's the already cancelled podcast k y
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of Nisha hello hello hello howdy so guys
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I came across this video literally
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yesterday and uh it made me feel a
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little bit weirded out so this chick
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named Emily W King she's on Tik Tok
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she's on all like social platforms yeah
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uh she was responding or reacting to a
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video by this other girl I believe her
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name is Yeet anyway this girl is
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basically saying that her father came up
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to her and said that he loves his mom
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more than he loves her and then Emily
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who's reacting to that video is saying
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that is correct that's how all
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relationships should be where the
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parents love each other more than they
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love their kids yeah good true really
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yeah okay hold on before we even get
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into this cuz that's just so odd to me I
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want to play the video I want you guys
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to listen to into it for yourself and
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then okay tell me what you think all
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right here we go my dad once told me
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that he loves my mom more than he loves
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me and I was like oh completely
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unprompted I was like okay thanks okay
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cool then he was like well you know cuz
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your mom gave me you so of course I love
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her more and I was like oh I guess
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that's kind of sweet and then I thought
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about it and I was
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like mom does not feel better way about
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you I would stand to argue that most men
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that are in healthy relationships that
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love their wives absolutely would say
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the same thing they love their wives
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more than their children and what I
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think about that is that that's how it
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should be but what's really kind of
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messed up is the last thing that she
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says and a lot of women are agreeing in
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the comments women are saying that they
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100% love their children more than their
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husbands this is just another example of
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how children and women are loved
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unconditionally yet men are loved only
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with conditions and of course there's
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exceptions to this there are some
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unicorn women that absolutely will love
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their husbands unconditionally but the
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fact that this is a not so common belief
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is kind of messed up what does that even
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mean okay it's called two different
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types of love a love for your child from
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a man speaking with kids a love for your
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child is completely unconditional but a
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love for your wife is also unconditional
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in a different sense because they gave
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you the children a love for your wife is
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never unconditional never that is the
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biggest falsified thing I've ever heard
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in my life you you would love Lorraine
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no matter what yes I mean I'm not
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speaking for you but what I'm saying is
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yeah I would love love Jer okay cool Jer
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unless I would still love him there's no
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way that that love will ever go away I
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am like that's love are you delusion it
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doesn't mean she but it doesn't mean
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that she will accept him cheating on her
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yeah exactly but I still love I will
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never not love that guy it's it's
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literally impossible [ __ ] yes your
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cat do you love your cat badwani yeah
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okay your cat probably has another house
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he goes and gets food from cheating on
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you but you still love your cat don't
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you that's different it's a it's not a
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human being it's we're talking about
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humans here you can't just bring in
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other species into the mix you're
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telling me Aisha hypothetically speaking
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Jared cheats on you yes the utmost
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disrespect to your relationship and to
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you as a person yes you think if he
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disappears after that
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10 years later you still love him yes
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but it's not the same anymore it's a
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different it's a different there's
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different types of love people there
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different types of Love But Ken you're
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agreeing with this I would be incredibly
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hurt yes incredibly hurt the
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relationship would be pretty much over
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between that type that's usually the
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case there is forgiveness and people do
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forgive people do move on and people
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make mistakes and then people
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continuously love and they grow and the
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relationship's different it changes and
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much like what I think it's a Japanese
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is what they do the only way to fix
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trust that's been broken is with gold if
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a glass breaks and glass sorry trust is
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as fragile as glass everybody if you
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drop the glass it shatters but the only
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way to put it back together is with gold
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and that's exactly the the lesson you
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should take into your relationship if
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the trust gets broken you have to put it
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back together with something more
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valuable right I don't know what that
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means I don't know what that is that's
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the more valuable thing but I look I I
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can say I can say I can say this from
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experience I have kids I love my wife in
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a different
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way and I put her I would say first very
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close first and then a very close second
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purely because if it's not for us to and
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our relationship growing progressing and
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staying in a positive way the kids will
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suffer I see what you're saying I get
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that but I think it's incomparable
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that's the honest truth like I think
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it's both unconditional love but when I
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have children with jar like I'm there's
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no way it would be such a distinct thing
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for me to ever say I love Jared more
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than I love my children I could never
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say that I know that but you won't be
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able to because I'm sorry but you're a
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you're you're a female and here's the
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reason why they literally grew inside of
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you you literally grew them Nishi you
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gave birth to them it's different a guy
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can't grow and give birth that's why the
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love for a mother and a child is
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different for a love from a father to a
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child and it's right what she says as
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well a mother loves her children more
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more than they love the father it's all
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that's all right I still I still I'm
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still baffled that you guys think
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relationship love no matter what
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relationship it is is unconditional you
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don't even believe in
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love like but it's true You' L I believe
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I believe there's something there that
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is a very like a a high emotion towards
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someone call it love if you want but
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that's not uncondition especially for a
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partner there's that's that have you
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ever fallen out of love have I ever
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fallen out of love
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yeah so you wouldn't actually know that
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it
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exists that it's very easy very easy to
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fall out of love but very easy yeah but
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I but you never really love to begin
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with then no no that's a lot of [ __ ] no
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no love whether you like it or not love
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comes and goes it is not something that
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comes and stays unless unless it's a
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love for a child or love for a mother or
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father or one of those fair enough
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that's unconditional love I totally
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understand that but a partner someone
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that is actually separated from you that
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could have ended up with anyone else in
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this world but they ended up with you
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but they ended up with you I'm telling
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you now dude what are you you mean
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there's relationship majority of
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relationships actually end majority 50%
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50/50 no it's actually more now check
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the stat but divorce rates are higher
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divorce rates breakup rates any kind of
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rate of separating with the person you
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love I think I look so how can that be
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unconditional you can still love and not
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be together but it doesn't mean you're
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in love until until that love dis
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disappears no but yes I think you've
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never been proper in love then if I'm
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being honest have you've never fallen
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out of love though yeah but I know point
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but okay but I know that there's a lot
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of people that like I I've loved in my
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life like well not relationship though
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but like friendships Nisha a a partner's
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love cannot be unconditional love it's
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not possible I
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don't okay let let me let me add value
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to what you guys are saying Nishi okay
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you still no matter what in a
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relationship every day choose to be with
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that person you choose to every day so
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you you have Merit to what you're say
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and the more you're saying it the more
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I'm thinking about it you still wake up
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every day and I choose to be in this
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relationship you cannot choose your
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relationship with your kid unless you're
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an absolute piece of [ __ ] [ __ ] and
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leave your kids they're still your kids
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see that that happens but it's such a
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it's such a not a rare thing but but you
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know statistically it's a very low
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percentage that it actually happens
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right but I always look at things from
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instinctively uh from the animal kingdom
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yes agree I always look at
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this if you're not able to provide for
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yourself you can't provide for anyone
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else exactly that's why the lion eats
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first then the then the lionesses and
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the kids it's all very logical way of
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thinking about things but when it comes
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to love and this is what I honestly
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think I think that a lot of people find
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each other they choose to be with one
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another which we all do you're right you
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wake up and you choose to be with that
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person but then there's a very very like
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and I don't think it's a lot of people
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but I think there's quite a few out
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there who actually find real love and
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that comes honestly I believe in a
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lifetime and if you get that you're very
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lucky you're very fortunate I feel like
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I have been privileged enough to get
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that in my life and I genuinely can say
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promise you I don't know what you want
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me to do to make you believe Scouts
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Honor even
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that if Jared did something terrible and
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you know as we said cheating yeah of
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course I'd be hurt I'd be heartbroken
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and yeah it would it would be horrible
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but I could never not love him and I
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know that for fact because you've never
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experienced however know but HT that
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hurt will overpower the love I'm telling
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you this right now no no it might not
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and I'll tell you why because you are
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and Jared is enough as mature enough to
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be able to fix it but fix it back in a
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different way your relationship will
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never be the same and there will be
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issues and there will be problems and
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you can still choose to be with him and
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he can still choose to be with you it
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would just be a different relationship
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and that there is how you make it and
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that then becomes a choice every day
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still so technically love is a choice
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when it comes to relationships with a
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partner yep not with a kid that's
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exactly what I've been saying however
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then comes in the concept
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of of uh uh providing and who who comes
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first cuz when the kid turns 18 they're
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gone cuz they're still your and you're
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just with your wife then that's true or
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your husband so then what happens then
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if you haven't been able to grow your
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relationship throughout the time that
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you've had the kids in your household
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and you get to the point where oh [ __ ]
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where's my kid I don't know what to do I
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got to check up on them and I got to all
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these things or you can just turn to
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your wife and go we have all this time
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now but we never grew together I don't
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really know you anymore yeah I just knew
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you as mom for the kids I didn't know
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you as my wife so it's so important that
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your relationship with your wife or your
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husband comes before your kids because
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your you you still have to it's it's
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just as much as a full-time job as being
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in a relationship is being a father or
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mother I don't think it has to be one or
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the other it's like you should be
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maintaining both and like and like when
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you have children they should add to
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your life and they should make it more
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beautiful and yeah you're right you
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should be paying attention not just to
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your kids but of course your partner
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like everything takes work in life you
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know marriage takes so much work it's
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it's it's it's not fairy tales and
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whatnot it's like hard decisions but you
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go through it together and you're so
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right you have to make sure you're
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making time for both so when that does
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happen when the kids do leave you're
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like well great now we have all the time
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to spend together I agree with that but
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I don't think and that's when the sex
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swing comes out and all these extra
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things that you never got to do when you
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were you know had the kids around and
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they all come and then you start getting
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real runchy but by that time it's hairy
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vaginas and what the [ __ ] beer bellies
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and all that's true it's true unless you
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keep yourself in shape and all that but
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the truth is then you get to really
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explore what you didn't get to explore
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at when you had no time because you just
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had
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kids what I will say is that once again
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I my
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vagina what I will say is that I I think
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it's incomparable like you love both
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your you should like I don't think you
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love your children more than you love
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your husband and vice versa it's a
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family and you love each other in
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different ways it's different it's
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different it's it's incomparable there
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were people in the comments that were
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agree like a lot a lot of people
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surprisingly it kind of took me very
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surprised were agreeing what with what I
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think her name Emily was saying that
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that people do love their children uh
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sorry their their Partners should love
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each each other more which was like
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really odd to me but then obviously
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there was a fair few that were like and
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they say the same thing it's
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incomparable so and and to from the
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kids's perspective when you're a kid you
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look at your parents like I love them so
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much you don't even know what love is
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right but you have this deep rooted
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connection that just never changes until
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you learn that they're not superhuman
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until you learn that they're not the
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goddess and the god that you once saw
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them at and the sooner you learn that
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and as sad as this might sound the
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better it is for you that your parents
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aren't super humans they're just humans
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they're just humans so who cares if they
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love the mom more than you no but who
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cares if they love the dad more than you
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because at the end of the day you're
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getting out of there you're finding your
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own partner you're having your own kids
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and continue it on I don't agree with
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that who cares no of course you okay I'm
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sorry but that's like the we like
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imagine your parent coming up to being
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like hey I love you I love your mom more
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than I love you or I love your dad say
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that to her yeah that was cuz she even
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said it was unpr she no [ __ ] she
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milked it as if the dad would go out of
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the way and go just letting you
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know I love your more than you know
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either way prompted or unprompted so
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weird so weird to me yeah you don't have
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to go and tell your kid you don't love
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him as much as he love hey I like your
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sister more than you a favorite child
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the same thing but I do think that
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there's a merit in saying that the
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mother loves the children more than the
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father and the children loves the mother
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more than the father but in different
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ways for example the children gets a
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certain type of love from the mother
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that's different to the love from the
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dad of when they're playing with the dad
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like for example me ller and eeve my two
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girls four and 2 years old when we're
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rolling around on the floor and I'm
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tossing and they're doing back flips and
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we're all doing these things on the bed
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they're getting an incredible release of
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I think it's called oxytocin which is
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like a happy it's like dopamine or
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something I I know the exact names
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they're getting an incredible release I
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think oxytocin is like the love chemical
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or whatever but when they're hugging mom
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and they're getting that nurture thing
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they're getting that from her so I'm the
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one that is playing with them a lot and
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like you know wrestling and doing all
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these different games and stuff with
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them because I know that that's my role
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to deliver them the love that they need
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chemically and Mom's role is deliver
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through the nurturing of the cuddles and
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the you know the close nurture that's
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her role right and whatever whatever you
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think I don't give a [ __ ] what anyone
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else thinks about it but the point I'm
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trying to get at is that they get a
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specific love from their parent and they
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love the parent for two different like
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for different reasons I love my wife for
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a certain reason I love my kids for a
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certain reason there is massive
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difference going on between all of them
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yeah I think yeah of course like when I
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like I love I wouldn't like with my
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parents I could never say I love one
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more than the other it's so different
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like when when I need to be nurtured
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I'll go straight to my mom like this
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just natural yeah your dad would be like
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no my dad's very nurturing though he
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really is don't come to me I don't have
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love for you only for your mother only
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for your mother only for your mother and
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it's not the love you're thinking
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about anyway oh wait wait I'm thinking
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about
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sorry I will stay out of this
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conversation now anyway I disagree with
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what she said and uh it's interesting
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how can we wrap it up in one bow in one
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bow different love is different for
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everyone love is incomparable [ __ ]
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